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Adjusting To Divorce - An Overview of Topics

This is the third article, but arguably should have been the first, in a series of articles I wrote last year with regard to my divorce. For me, this was an important part of the process to be able to consider the aspects of the topic in a detached, analytical way. 

It has been a very long time since I posted anything to this blog, and now with the new year, 2015 in full swing, I will provide some detail about what has been going on for me in my financial life. Finances when it comes to divorce are a difficult proposition to be sure.

In this series of articles, I will provide some clear details about what the steps are that I have taken to keep my financial house in order, the steps I've taken that have set me back, and also my ongoing struggles to make sense of all of the various decisions coming for me in the future. I welcome comments and ideas; I am not an expert on these financial topics by any means and I think that it makes a lot of sense to consider carefully what will work for you; your mileage may vary.

The topics that are relevant to divorce when it comes to finance are varied, but I think this is a good sample of my personal considerations around the topic. As I write and complete the various posts, I will update the links ago, but for now consider this list simply a preview of what is coming:

Separation Vs Divorce
Making the Decision and Having the talk
Evening out the inequalities, Separating the assets
Moving out One Year Later
Living Apart, Living Large
Reclaiming Life, Restarting Goals
Dating with Data, Digging for Gold
Comparative Compromise, Coping with Change


The above topics are completely subjective, but in a large way, they characterize the various aspects of my divorce that I would like to discover. I don't expect that things are very novel depending on what kind of separation/divorce you are dealing with...all of them have similar issues and you must work through them each carefully. My sincere hope is that by reading these articles, you'll learn more about yourself and that this will help others' and their relationships.

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