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Comparative Compromise, Coping with Change

Comparative Compromise, Coping with Change This is the last article in a series of short posts about reflections on divorce. While I would not wish this on anyone for a variety of reasons, not the least of which is the financial impact that such an event can have, I certainly feel excited to be working through this process and wanted to take just a few moments to share some of the insights that have really affected me. One of the biggest skills that you need to cultivate as part of the divorce process is being comfortable with change an uncertainty. While this is a financial blog, there are several items that I found very helpful in this manner and these have had immense benefits for my entire life, not just my finances. The Untethered Soul - By Michael Singer Living Beautifully with Change and Uncertainty by Pema Chodron Besides these books I also found three additional pieces of advice are extremely helpful: 1. Go easy on yourself. In a word: compassion. With all of the

Dating with Data, Digging for Gold

Dating with Data, Digging for Gold This article is part of a series on divorce which describes my experiences as part of going through a divorce. In short, I found that the dating world had changed somewhat by the time I returned to it as a result of my divorce. Now, the internet has changed dating, changed it even more than when I had originally met my spouse on America Online almost 20 years ago. Now the internet bustles with all sorts of applications for smart phones related to dating. Many of them are related and part of larger conglomerates at this point. I wanted to take this post really to just give my own personal impressions of dating as a result of this experience. I personally used an app called OKCupid which I found to be very good and helpful. Here are the things I liked: 1. It provided pictures and some opportunity to give a description. 2. It did not require for other people to know I was looking at their profile. 3. It allowed me to be able to answer questions